Sometimes I get bogged down in what isn’t going well. Ayub is still a handful. He’s still struggling in school. He still has breakdowns and outbursts (although they are much less frequent and much shorter). He still has trouble communicating at times. He still has the energy of a Jack Russell Terrier on Mountain Dew. He still gets dysregulated if things don’t go according to schedule.
But this weekend, we had a great day. Sunday afternoon, we took all the kids to a college baseball game. We are huge baseball fans and have had season tickets for several years. We took the kids once, last spring, and it was a complete and utter disaster. Therefore, we haven’t taken the whole family back since then. But yesterday, we decided to give it another try. We put Lucy down for an early nap, and then went to the game. We took two cars, fully expecting that one of us would have to leave with the little kids. But instead, they were great. They had some snacks, watched the game (sort of), and crawled around the seats. I was amazed.
It lasted for more than two hours, then we had to leave to go to a friends’ going away party. That’s right, after this first success, we decided we would take all the kids (minus Sam, who we dropped off at baseball practice) with us to the party. There was a bouncy house, swing set, and lots of other kids. Quite the overstimulating environment. Yet, still, everyone did great. So, being ones to push our luck, we decided to eat dinner out at a real restaurant, until Sam finished baseball practice. And it was great. With only minor electronic distraction, we were able to calmly wait until our food was delivered and eat without causing a huge scene.
To most of you, this would sound like a typical day. Nothing out of the ordinary. But to us, it was a huge milestone. Doing THREE different things that we couldn’t have done a year ago was amazing. It proved to me that we are getting there. We are making progress. And we will have a “normal” life once again. It also showed me that I need to focus more on how far we’ve come than how far we have left to go.