Most of you know that Ayub and Lucy are biological brother and sister. I can share that with you because we’re friends. (Actually, I’m friends with a handful of you, and have no idea who the other few hundred are because you don’t leave comments, but for the sake of this post, I’m going to pretend like we’re friends.) However, if you were a stranger, I would think it would be very rude for you to ask “are they brother and sister?” Yet I am getting that question more and more when I’m out in public with the kids. The woman at in line at Target, the mom at the library, and the woman in the waiting room at the doctor’s office.
There are, of course, variations on the question. My favorite is “are they real siblings?” said while Eleanor was also with us. Ummm…how to answer that. “Yes, these two are, but that one isn’t?” Really? Did she really think I would say that? And, I don’t want to seem overly sensitive, but would people ask at all if they were white kids?
So, here’s the quiz for the day. Which do you think is the best response?
A. (Educational Response) “Yes, they are biological siblings because I worked with an ethical adoption agency that only allows related children to be adopted at the same time?”
B. (Confrontational Response) “None of your damn business. How would you like it if I asked if those were your real boobs?”
C. (Advoidance) “I don’t really remember. I have so many kids that I have kind of lost track.”
Please vote. Then I’ll know what to do AND I will know who you are.